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Comment on This by My1BlueEye

My1BlueEye — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 13:39:35 +0000

Well said my friend.

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by vdaze

vdaze — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 01:41:34 +0000

What’s “creepy” is the group of trolls constantly attacking Shoq.

I prefer the type of friends who speak up. Loudly. To each his / her own.

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by My1BlueEye

My1BlueEye — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 01:19:40 +0000

For the love of fuckall! Is this bullshit *still* continuing? The psychopath compulsive liar crowd (read beccay et al) seriously have no life if, after all this time, they *still* can’t just STFU. Amusing to see the same accusations of “being hacked” (as if they even understand what that means, and what would *really* be happening to their lives if they actually *were* hacked — Hint: no hacker gives a shit about what some drug-addled hypersensitive hypochondriac half-wit says on twitter).

My decision to leave twitter, Fecesbook and the rest of anti-social media is, yet again, confirmed when I see those with no life, no hope of having a life, continue to pretend they have one by flailing about like fish in a boat as if the more noise they make the more important they are.

What a Complete. Bunch. Of. Utter. Fuckwits.

You have more intestinal fortitude than I, daze, for sticking it out with these ‘people’ (and I use that term *very* loosely).

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by mandm

mandm — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 22:40:29 +0000

Wow. I don’t use twitter much anymore because there is too much Crazy in the kool-aid…every time I drop in, I see some new level of it. I did see a TON of attacking towards vdaze going on during one of my drop-ins, which didn’t make any sense to me. (I guess that’s what happens when you start watching a movie in the middle.)

I wondered how she (you) could take it, but you seemed to be handling it a lot better than anyone else I’ve seen under attack on twitter…it had to get to you at some point, and I guess this was it. I can understand ultimately being driven over the edge…but I just can’t get around the question yelling for attention in my head – this is a lot of effort to defend Shoq. Why? Shoq is more than capable of defending himself and you’re perfectly capable of defending yourself – so I think it’s weird and a little creepy that this is 90+% about defending Shoq.

Whatever, whether I think it’s weird or not, it’s your right just as much as anything else, and I agree about the bullying. I don’t even know what the sides or the fights are anyway and am fine with that. Good luck, and I hope things are calmed down and stay that way.

Parting advice: These people aren’t going to change. If you want to keep from getting burned, just stay out of the fire. You can express your support to your friends in DMs but you don’t have to jump in. If they expect you to jump in, I’d say they’re not your friends because they should know you’d come under attack as well.

Comment on Old Wounds by Bill

Bill — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 17:16:16 +0000

Walked a similar path although mine seems insignificant compared to the depth of your journey. I was 33 when I stood at the banks of the “raging river”. For me the key wasn’t how I would cross, just that I was going to find a way to the other side. Little did I know a truly beautiful person would meet me half way. I didn’t attempt a jump across by aggressively pursuing this as I might other things I wanted for my life. I just made sure when the opportunity presented itself, I was prepared to put my toes in the water. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by vdaze

vdaze — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 22:21:18 +0000

People have the right to respond when they are falsely accused of a crime. In Shoq’s case, GottaLaff (who is also anonymous, by the way) has been lobbing false accusations at Shoq for a long time. I have no problem with anonymity, and don’t agree with your theory that if he just used his real name the bullying would stop. I do have a problem with people falsely accusing others of doing things they didn’t do. As for you unfollowing him – to each his own *shrugs*

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by Chris

Chris — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 14:52:39 +0000

Who is this Shoq guy anyway? If he used his real name like most journalists/bloggers then the bullying would probably plummet to zero. Anyway, I finally had to unfollow him recently as every other post now is him responding to some hater. He just clogs up my feed. Internet cat fights are 13 year olds. Damn.

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by Shoq’s ordeal with #serialliar Jason Leopold creepily similar to mine with Mariana and Chris « Maria Technosux

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Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by vdaze

vdaze — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 13:08:27 +0000

Thanks Jeni – that’s pretty much how I see it too. Heated interactions and misunderstands don’t mean bullying. It’s absolutely a case of people being overly sensitive, and rather than just ignoring it and moving on, they’ve become paranoid and see any kind of criticism as bullying. It’s absurd. And to watch them justify their actions because they think Shoq is an asshole or whatever, is just sickening.

Oh…and I totally remember The Globe *lol*

Comment on When Bullying Becomes Acceptable by Jeni Burns

Jeni Burns — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 12:51:14 +0000

‘Tis the season, I guess. I’ve been working on a post about liberal bullies who’s focus is liberals for the better part of a month since writing about it for an essay for my (Now finished, yay!) English class. After way too much psychoanalysis (seriously), it’s like…remember the kids in high school, who always insisted they were being bullied, but, in fact, they were the ones overreacting to damn near everything said to them? This is who we’re dealing with. They don’t live in our reality. Disagreeing IS bullying to them. Because, if there isn’t happy-unicorn-fart-agreement-love-fest, it’s all-out war.
Back when I first started twitter, I figured it’d just be like a virtual hipster hangout. Kind of like The Globe was when I first started on the internets. (if you remember The Globe, congratulations, LOL, you’re old, and have been on the internet forever.) Then, I started following a couple people I liked and respected. Then, someone RT’d something Shoq said that I agreed with, so I replied and followed back. Then there was this other guy (don’t remember him, LOL), who started arguing with Shoq about..gah, I think it was CodyK? Or someone like that? I dunno. Anyway, apparently the guy was getting a bit too friendly, and no one liked it. I didn’t know the whole story then, I still don’t, so my only input on the situation was that whatever the problem was, could they both take it off stream, because, seriously, they were both being stupid. I think Shoq and I had an argument, then he blocked me for maybe a week, and then re-subbed. I resubbed, and, since then, all has been well. Guess what, he wasn’t being a bully! Neither was I! The other dude has fallen into obscurity, and I did stop following his FB page (after his overly dramatic twitter retirement) after he *did* start getting seriously weird with some of his female fans, but, well, ugh. Hindsight = 20/20.
My point is, (other than I need caffeine) well, Shoq isn’t a bully. I’ve seen him try. He doesn’t know how to just be mean. He would suck as a bully. But, what I HAVE seen him do is lash back at people who hurt him. I will admit, that, other than making a few comments like “I don’t understand the obsession with unmasking Shoq”, I have tried not to get involved. I don’t spend nearly enough time on twitter to get involved. But, you can be damn sure that the second someone in my stream slams him, I’ll defend him the best I can. He’s NOT a bully, he’s not a creep, and he’s generally a good goddamn guy. This shit is too common, and if people don’t stand up to the ACTUAL bullies, we’re all fucked.