Four Things Come Not Back
“Four things come not back: the spoken word, the sped arrow, the past life, and the neglected opportunity.” ~ Proverb
There don’t seem to be any words that adequately capture and convey the sincere apology I owe to those I hurt while supporting a man who never deserved it. Many (understandably) block me and don’t want to hear it, some will (understandably) never accept it anyway, and others have moved on and don’t care either way. Some friendships will hopefully be repaired over time, others have been lost, and some never were.
To those I have hurt: I was wrong, and I sincerely apologize to you. I chose to be involved in someone else’s personal feuds based on information given to me. It was inappropriate, immature, and hurtful to others. Regardless of whether it felt right at the time, I knew what I was doing – and it was still wrong. I am quite sick over this entire situation, and the consequences will be what they will be.
For anyone wishing to contact me, please feel free – even if it’s to cuss me out. Obviously, I can be reached on Twitter, or via email: virtualdaze at gmail dot com.
To @jennyjinx: thank you for writing this. Sincerely.
September 2nd, 2012 at 8:28 pm
I’m truly sorry that you had to experience this. When I heard that voicemail I raged and raged then decided to go ahead and blog. I considered omitting names, but then that would hide it from the world still. You deserve better than that. No one deserves to be treated that way.
Thank you for the apology.
September 2nd, 2012 at 9:36 pm
I don’t deserve any slack from anyone, and I just want to say again how much I appreciate your post.
September 2nd, 2012 at 9:41 pm
Sorry he did this to you. That guy is pure slime. Nothing but a user of people.
September 2nd, 2012 at 10:05 pm
Jessica I think it took guts to blog this out in the open with your name/handle attached. What you experienced was wrong, inexcusable and nauseating. I wish you the best.
September 2nd, 2012 at 10:08 pm
Thank you. Much appreciated.
September 2nd, 2012 at 11:57 pm
No slack. Just support. :)
September 3rd, 2012 at 1:17 am
Support from here as well. I hope you’ll have the time you need to heal and recover. You’ve gone through something no one should ever have to go through.
September 3rd, 2012 at 11:10 am
I’ve been camping in the mountains w/no internetz for days. Come back down to this?? Wow. Sounds like you’ve had a really rough time. And IIRC, you had a pretty rough time just prior to that a couple of years ago, too. I wish you time and space enough to really heal, not to just “get over it.” Hope you get it.
September 3rd, 2012 at 11:32 am
Thank you for having the courage to share this with the world even though it must be painful. You do not in any way, shape or form deserve to be treated that way.
September 3rd, 2012 at 5:00 pm
Just glad you’re seeing clearly now.
All women who encounter Shoq will find out sooner or later.
Only a matter of time.
September 3rd, 2012 at 5:58 pm
I probably don’t agree with you politically on anything. But I am truly sorry you’re having to go through this. I do think men who lean politically left tend to get away with bad/abusive behavior(more than conservative men) because their politics are perceived as “for women”
Putting all that aside no woman should ever be talked to or treated in such a way… its disgusting and he exposed himself as someone who lacks character.
September 3rd, 2012 at 9:02 pm
Jessica, I can’t tell you how much I respect you for what you have said here. It shows a strong woman who owns up to past transgressions quite eloquently . It shows an honorable woman who clearly learns from her mistakes–and becomes the richer for it. I am impressed. I would be proud to call you a friend one day.
September 4th, 2012 at 2:55 pm
May want to pass on this tiny fyi to Jennyjinx – can’t access your blog from three different browsers, maybe somebody’s playing games?
September 5th, 2012 at 3:58 pm
Totally admit I unfollowed both of you in haste because I never really liked Shoq and I didn’t want to deal with his drama in a tweet barrage. I’m caught up on the story now – WOW glad you said all of this and have walked away from this guy. Classic narcissist. Very very creepy. Glad you never met him in person – good call there. He will always blame you in his “apologies.” Unfortunately I have too much experience with this sort of guy. Suggest you get a restraining order.
September 8th, 2012 at 3:41 pm
Long time follower here. Though you don’t follow back (not a bleg, I swear!) Just wanted to say that even though I’m a stranger, I am on your side. Know that you have, for lack of a better term, invisible support.
shorter: sending positive vibes and virtual hugs. :)
September 8th, 2012 at 4:15 pm
Thank you. Email me your username on Twitter – virtualdaze at gmail dot com.
September 10th, 2012 at 10:28 pm
This whole situation is one of the most ridiculous things that I have ever read. How in the hell do two fully grown adults have an abusive relationship over twitter/email/phone? I generally think that liberals are ridiculous people but my political opinion doesn’t even play into my comments. This shoq guy is a total nutbag apparently and you had some kind of torrid electronic relationship with him? Insanely hilarious, sad and nauseating. Why didn’t you guys ever meet? Were you two some kind of agoraphobic Benny and Joon? Anyway, thanks for the lulz and thank you for ruining the Obama campaign.
September 11th, 2012 at 4:59 pm
harrr you lost the election for Obama – wow you must be GOD